Ask Rach #1: Not Caring What People Say Or Think.
Not caring what people think or say.
Question: “How did you get to the point where you stopped caring what people think and say about you?”
Let me just start out strong.
I could care less what anyone says to me, about me, or how they view me. I am confident in whose I am. I am confident in who I am because I know that aside from Christ, I am nothing. You heard that right, I am nothing. I am nothing without Christ.
So with that as my foundation, I am pretty much unstoppable since Christ is unstoppable.
If you are reading this and wanting to be the same way, here is some advice that changed my life:
Stop giving people the power.
I was talking to someone older than me one day just ranting about all the people saying bad things about me and worrying about what people are going to think and she said those words to me. At that moment, it all clicked.
She continued and was like, “Rachael, when people say words to you, you have the choice. You have the choice to either store that in your head as truth, or you can take it with a grain of salt. You have the choice to store what they think of you in your head as the truth of who you are or you can cling to the truth of who Christ has called you to be.”
Big oof, amirite.
We have the choice. So like God, in His goodness, gave me an opportunity that next night to practice this. A friend called me and told me that she thought I was using Instagram to cover up insecurities and that it was becoming my identity.
I easily could have gotten offended. I easily could’ve gotten insecure about how people were viewing me online. I easily could have gotten mad.
But in that moment, I chose to say, “Alright, well I will take this to the Lord and see what He has to say about it.”
Later that night, I took it to the Lord and sweet Jesus said that was her own insecurities she was dealing with within Instagram and she was projecting it onto me. Later that week, she deleted Instagram because of the same reasons that I felt the Lord informed me of previously.
Moral of the story?
Your choice. It’s your choice what you want to believe about yourself. It’s your choice if you want to press MUTE on other people’s opinions about you or if you want to press MUTE on God’s truth that never changes.
2 Timothy 3:16-17, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
Hebrews 4:12, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.”
Psalm 18:30, “As for God, his way is perfect:
The Lord’s word is flawless;
he shields all who take refuge in him.”
Matthew 7:24, “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock.”
Friends, He is the one who calls you what you are. He is the one who determines your worth. You know why? Because He was the one who created you, keeps you here on earth, has your best interests in mind, gives you purpose, and will determine when you leave this earth.
When people say hurtful things to or about you, it’s because of their own hurt in their life. It’s not a reflection of you. It’s a clear reflection of them. The more you know how weak you are or how you don’t have to create this identity for yourself, but instead merely walk in the identity as a new creation (Ephesians 1:5) with Christ, you will know that you aren’t of this world, but HIS.
Want more confidence? You find it in Him.
No do not go google, “self confidence in the Lord” just open up your bible to John and get to know the gospel. Get to know Jesus. It’s a relationship and the more you know Him, the more you will know who you are. The more you know who you are, the less you will care what other broken people say about you.