Have you ever struggled with comparison on Instagram? How about Instagram taking too much of your time? You find yourself scrolling endlessly then look at the clock and it’s been 3 hours and everything you said you needed to get done…. Has not gotten done because you have been scrolling through Instagram. Well,I’ve been there and would love to help you figure out how to not be overcome by Instagram!
Back in high school, I would be on Instagram constantly. I would look for specific people’s posts and stories just waiting for them to post what they were doing. I would look to see who was hanging out with who. I would look out for all the new selfies that people were taking. All the while, being sad that I was just at home on my phone.
I remember feeling like I had to level up to other people’s posts and pictures of themselves. I remember feeling so accomplished when a picture would get over a certain amount of likes. I remember deleting posts that did not get enough likes. I remember getting mad at my friend’s constantly for not inviting me to things, when in reality I had no idea what the situation was. So many insecurities and lies I believe about myself today because of a dumb little app called: Instagram.
I know I am not alone in this. I know there are other people who struggle with how to balance Instagram and that is why I am writing this today. There are boundaries you need to take with Instagram so that Instagram doesn’t run your life. So that you are in control of what goes in your brain and heart.
Instagram is definitely not a bad thing, I mean for goodness sake, I use it for my ministry! I love Instagram and all the things that can come from it. But with good things, there is always something that can be toxic and harmful.
We all know deleting Instagram for 30 days is good and refreshing, but then we go back on and get sucked in once again. 3 months goes by and you say, “dang it. I am overcome with comparison and Instagram is just taking up too much of my time. I’m going to delete it again.” But friends, deleting it and removing it from your life for a week or a month is going to fix your problems. Boundaries will.
Here are some tangible boundaries that have worked for me:
Hiding certain people’s stories. You can hide people’s stories and you won’t see them! The other person will not be notified! This is a good boundary to have when you find yourself comparing your everyday life with someone else. We all have those people that is a little bit more triggering than others. Hide their story and don’t put yourself in a situation where you are going to compare yourself to someone else.
When you first wake up, pray or do something productive rather than going directly on Instagram. I mean come on, if that’s what the first thing we see when we wake up, what do you think the focus of our day will be? If we train our brains to be focused on what is actually going on around us, we won’t be so focused on what we are “missing” on Instagram at that moment.
Do not spend time searching through someone’s profile! This has been a huge one for me, personally. We’ve all been there: we see another pretty girl who is fit and eats kale and we just start scrolling through her profile. We then find ourselves 3 years back looking at her brother’s fiance’s best friend who is also beautiful. This type of scrolling is purposeless. We are not apart of that person’s life therefore we do not need to be learning every part of their life. Stop yourself when you find yourself doing this, shut the app off, and do something different real quick.
Unfollow all the pages and people that make you compare yourself to them! This is not selfish or wrong to do. I have unfollowed friends before because of certain things I struggle with. I tell them (and sometimes I don’t) that I am going through a season where I can’t be seeing them constantly post about their relationship because it leads me into believing the lie that I am #ForeverAlone. Romans 12:10 says, “Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” If a friend is going to be mad that you unfollowed them, stick true to this verse. If your friend wanted to honor you, they are going to understand the boundaries that you are trying to create for yourself.
Don’t post a photo of yourself the same day you took it. Hear me out on this one. We all take pictures with our friends and go on mini photoshoots, right? Well, I would always stress and be anxious because I wanted to post it SO BADLY. Why did I want to post it so badly? Why is there a rush on posting it RIGHT NOW? This is going to be different for each person but I would encourage you to ask yourself this before you do this! Why do I want to post this picture of me right now? Is it because I look really pretty and I want to see the likes & comments that will come? This is a small step in not finding affirmation in other’s approval.
That’s just a few that I felt like I should share with you, right now. I know it is different for every person, but these are just the main boundaries I have created for myself. Instagram can be used for so many good things, but we do not want to be overtaken with it. I would love to see which boundary you are wanting to take yourself! Take a screenshot or post on your story how you are going to be more active on making sure Instagram doesn’t rule your life!
Like always, message me with any questions!